Tuesday, April 18, 2017

The System is Failing Our Children

How is it that the systems put in place to help or protect our children are actually failing them? 

    We live in Pennsylvania. Liam was diagnosed on the spectrum six years ago. (In the years following, many diagnoses would follow.) At that time, our state case worker suggested we file for SSDI. We have filed, been denied, appealed, been denied, on and off for those six years.

    This year when we went into our caseworker to review his benefits we were told to file again. We called the SSI office and asked for paperwork. In the meantime, I get this letter in the mail.

   Okay, so first of all, what in the heck is the DAP and why in God's name have I just now been informed of it? We've been battling the state for Liam's rights for SIX years. All this time the Disability Advocacy Program of Pa never once stepped in. Not once.

    Suddenly, here they are, telling me if I DON'T file for him that I AM IN VIOLATION. What about them? As you can see, they clearly state that "Liam is considered a person with Disabilities." Yet, year after year, case after case, this very state denies him.

    Now let that sink in.

    I would be in violation for not filing, but they aren't for denying? How does that work? So last night, I spent a couple more hours filling out the same forms, and booklets that I have done in the past. All for them to tell me he isn't "disabled enough."

    Okay. Then why can't he attend a traditional school? Why are you, the state of Pa, helping to pay for me to not work, in order to care for, and to school him myself? Why does his school have him in numerous therapies for Speech, OT, and PT. How can you deny the fact that NUMEROUS doctors have diagnosed him with so many conditions, three of which automatically qualify him for SSDI?

    Why is it that systems put in place to help our children, aren't. (Remember, we've been filing for six years, and just NOW we're being told there's an agency that helps with that.) Yet, the only help they have given is to tell me I could be in violation. Gee, thanks Pennsylvania!

    Our children fight so hard to find their place in this world. They fight to over come their obstacles, and to face their challenges. As parents, we help them with these battles. We also try our very best to make sure all of their needs are met. Yet, the systems put in place to help them, don't. Instead they fail them, and us as well.




  1. Oh..... believe me. None of this will ever make sense. The hoops they make us jump through is cruel and mentally abusive.

  2. we live in KY & my son was diagnosed at 3 yr old with mild mental retardation & non-verbal autism. & we where told to apply for S.S.D.I for him...we did & were denied(we made to much money but his father was the only one working i was a stay at home mom) a few year later we tried again..denied..to much income. it wasn't until his father(now ex-husband) left us & took all the income with him that i called S.S.office & told them we have no income now & my son was still disabled now what are they going to do about helping him.(he was about 10 yrs old by then)they soon got on the ball set up an appointment to see their doctor..soon after he started receiving his S.S.I.D check. no atty. needed (he is now almost 19.. & when he turned 18 i had to become his legal guardian(even though i was his birth mother in the eyes of the government at 18 disabled or not he is an adult) oh and this year once he does turn 19 his check will only go up to $730(max) since he has never worked it's not like other peoples disablity checks